Day 170 of 1000: Creating a lead magnet

I’m undertaking a 1000-day reinvention project, blogging here daily to track my progress. In Monday Marketing, I research, plan, and evaluate my marketing and promotion activities.

A lead magnet is a free, valuable resource offered in exchange for someone’s email address — a checklist, guide, or quiz for example –designed to attract an audience and begin a relationship with them.

This morning I began thinking about next steps for building out my book marketing platform. I haven’t finished the book manuscript yet, far from it. But it makes sense to get going now on reaching out to people who might eventually like to buy and read it. I read a few articles about Meta’s Andromeda advertising system, a new way of determining which ads are shown to which users on Instagram and Facebook (and soon, Threads). And I started thinking about what ads might drive people to buy my book.

But that’s getting ahead of things. Instead of trying to get someone to immediately buy the book, a better flow is likely to get them to sign up for a newsletter. That way they can become familiar with my ideas and my voice and if those are appealing to them once the book comes out, they can buy it then.

So I want to advertise the availability of a lead magnet in exchange for signing up for a newsletter.


Chat says the lead magnet should be easy to produce, emotionally resonant with the book’s themes, immediately useful to my audience, and position me as a thought partner in the sphere of midlife romantic reinvention.

And it provided the following suggestions:

  • “The Midlife Love Reset Checklist”
  • “5 Patterns Blocking Your Next Great Relationship”
  • “Are You a Reckless or a Reckful Lover? A Quiz”
  • “The First 3 Chapters of Reckless in Love” (early teaser)
  • “The Modern Midlife Dating Manifesto”
  • “What You Actually Want in Love: A 20-minute Clarity Workbook”

I’m not thrilled with any of those ideas. I think I’d like to do something like “5 Midlife Online Dating Mistakes (and What to Do Instead)” as another option Chat and I came up with together. Here are the five potential mistakes I might cover:

  1. Creating a checklist of who you are looking for vs being open to who shows up
  2. Extensively planning what kind of relationship you desire instead of allowing possibilities to unfold.
  3. Prioritizing conventional physical attractiveness (your own — e.g. by using old photos when you were younger/skinnier and theirs — by swiping left if someone doesn’t immediately attract you with their photos) instead of finding muthal emotional and physical attraction.
  4. Discarding someone if there isn’t an immediate spark instead of allowing connection to develop over time
  5. Assuming that you and your potential partners are fixed as to who they are instead of allowing for growth and becoming

Next step: write the lead magnet! But then in order to use it I have a lot of other tasks to do:

  • Set up the website and landing page where people can sign up for the newsletter and download the guide (I already have a new Substack created under a pen name that I might use for this)
  • Add some content to that website so that people can peruse more of my ideas before signing up
  • Create my first ad and give it a go!